How to Make Friends on Discord in 3 Steps

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How to Make Friends on Discord in 3 Steps

Discord can be a very lonely place when you first create an account. Fortunately, we have a lot of ways to help you make friends on Discord. Naturally, you’ll want to get involved with other people when you get on Discord, but getting started is like the first day of school all over again.

Although the platform seems tailored to gamers, you can actually find servers and friends with all sorts of interests. Hang out with us for a bit and we’ll teach you how to make friends on Discord!

Understanding How Friends Work on Discord

Discord is a communications platform rather than a social media platform. Therefore, the rules of friend-making are a little different. You don’t send friend requests to just anyone on Discord. In fact, you’ll need to have some familiarity with the other person’s Discord profile before you can even send a request.

Before making friends on Discord, you must join servers or find them in video games or other social media platforms first. Fortunately, the following sections will teach you how to send friend requests and find friends on Discord. Without further ado, let’s dive in.

How to Make Friends on Discord: Finding Friends

Hopefully, you already know a few people on Discord you can add as friends. If so, here’s one of the many ways to add friends on Discord.

Launch Discord and follow these steps:

Step 1: Click Add Friend

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The Add Friend button lets you search for friends.


Click the Discord icon in the far left top corner. Then, locate the Add Friends button. Tap or click it.

Note: The Add Friend button is at the top, just to the right of the center on a desktop. Mobile Discord users must tap the three-line icon in the top right, then the friend icon at the bottom.

Step 2: Input Their Discord Handle

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You can type a Discord username into the text box.


Type your friend’s name in the box that appears.

Step 3: Click Send Friend Request

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Click the Add Friend button to send a request.


Finally, click or tap the Send Friend Request button. When your new contact receives the request, they can approve it. Then, they’ll appear on your friends list.

How to Make Friends on Discord: Sending Requests

In the following sections, we’ll give you some expert tips on finding Discord friends. However, when you do find them, you’ll want to send them a request as soon as possible. You can follow the steps above to search for someone, or you can follow these steps to send requests while on a Discord server.

Step 1: Click the User’s Profile Picture

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The profile icon will take you to the profile page.


Go to the server and find your prospective friend. Then, click on their profile icon in the chat. A small pop-up window appears. Click on their profile icon again.

Step 2: Click Send Friend Request

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Click Send Friend Request to make friends on Discord.


A new pop-up window will appear, and you can click the Send Friend Request button in the top right corner. If your new acquaintance is as eager for friendship as you are, they’ll accept your request shortly.

How to Make Friends on Discord: Being Discord-Friendly

Now that we’ve covered how to send friend requests let’s talk about some tips we use to make new friends on Discord. Of course, you can’t send friend requests without having prospects first. What you can do, however, is seek out new friends in the best places.

Here are some tips for making friends on Discord.

Join Discord Servers

The first, and probably the best, place to find Discord friends is on servers. Some servers are public, and others are invite-only, but both are great for finding new friends.

Open Discord and click the Discover icon (it looks like a compass) in the lower left corner. Then, scroll through and find servers with people who have similar interests as you. Join the servers, interact, follow all the rules, and make some friends.

Find Gaming Buddies

We’ve made the majority of our Discord friends playing video games. If you’re into MMOs like GTA V, Destiny 2, COD, etc., you will find some good buddies to play with. After meeting new and interesting people in a game, you can join their servers and make even more friends.

Of course, you can also create your own Discord server and advertise it to entice more people to come to you. Either way, games are a great place to make Discord friends.

Social Media

Believe it or not, you can find many Discord friends on other social media platforms. For example, Reddit has an entire SubReddit for people looking for friends. Join the SubReddit and make posts looking for new people to interact with with similar interests.

Of course, you can also incorporate friends from Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook! Head over to your favorite social media sites and let your followers know you’re looking for some good friends to hang out with on the site. This method is also excellent for getting accepted into invite-only servers.

Keeping Friends on Discord

Making friends on Discord isn’t worth the effort if you can’t keep them. So, let’s talk about some of the greatest things you can do to keep them.

Stay Relevant

You’ll lose a lot of Discord friends if you’re flaky or stray from topics too much. Suppose you join a Minecraft server. Keep your communications about Minecraft and contribute helpful or entertaining commentary. After all, no one wants to be in an echo chamber.

Furthermore, you must participate in the chat. Absence doesn’t make the gamer’s heart grow fonder, unfortunately. If you disappear for periods, people won’t remember you. Try participating and adding value to many conversations to make friends on Discord.

Obey the Rules

You can’t have friends on Discord if your account gets banned or you get kicked from servers. Both Discord and servers have their own rules. Look at the rules and do your best to comply, even if the rules seem unfair and don’t make sense.

Also, try to avoid conflicts. A little diplomacy goes a long way on Discord. Stay neutral and positive when possible.

Don’t Be Annoying

Do you know who has the least number of friends on Discord? Annoying people. These are people who spam chats, troll others, and send a lot of unrelated media like GIFs and images. Don’t spend time making Discord friends just to run them off with obnoxious behavior later.

Be courteous and consider how others perceive your behavior to keep your Discord friends. If you’re worthy, the server owner may even make you a mod at some point.

Wrapping Up

Is Wampus your only Discord friend? While he’s great, he isn’t the same as real friends. Fortunately, you can make even more friends on Discord by following a few simple steps. You can find likeable mutuals on servers, in your favorite games, and on other social media sites. Of course, follow our guide to keeping your friends so you don’t wind up lonely again.

Frequently Asked Questions

How do I know if someone accepted my Discord friend request?

Discord sends notifications when someone accepts your friend request, so look there first. You’ll also see your new friends under the Friends tab on the Discord home page.

Where can I see all of my Discord friends?

Click the Discord icon in the top left corner (above all your servers). Then, click the Friends tab at the top if it isn’t selected already. You’ll see all of your friends here.

Mobile users must tap the three-line icon in the top left corner and tap the Friends icon at the bottom to see all friends.

How long does it take to make friends on Discord?

Making Discord friends doesn’t happen overnight unless you already have some prospects. Hanging out in servers and getting to know people takes time.

How do I see pending friend requests?

You can see pending friend requests by going to the Discord home page and clicking the Pending tab at the top. Scroll through your pending requests to see if your newest prospect has accepted your request.

Mobile users will see pending requests at the top of the Friends tab. Tap the three-line icon and tap the Friends icon at the bottom. You’ll see pending requests here.

How many Discord friends can I have?

At the time of writing, you can have 1,000 friends. Discord may up this at some point in the future, but for now, there is a limit. Of course, keep in mind that the quality of your friends is more important than the quantity.

Do I need to make friends on Discord?

No. Wampus is a perfectly acceptable friend, although he does get a little snarky at times. You can still join servers and interact with other people without friending them. Your Discord friends are those you chat with often and want to find quickly. Assuming you aren’t a people person, you can forego the stress of making friends.

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